Words! Aaaaggh! (@Partakers_Dave)



I am sure you know that the book of Proverbs tells about wisdom. Wisdom about how to live a godly and skilful life by dealing successfully with the practical affairs of everyday life. It was written by Solomon, who was given wisdom as a gift from God in an encounter related to us in 1 Kings 3.

For today though, I would like to reflect very briefly on Solomon’s wisdom reflecting something which concerns us all – in both giving and receiving – our use of words.

Wisdom such as (Proverbs 15:1, 4, 23, 26)

  • “A gentle response defuses anger, but a sharp tongue kindles a temper-fire” (Proverbs 15:1);
  • “Kind words heal and help! Cutting words wound and maim” (Proverbs 15:4);
  • “Congenial conversation—what a pleasure! The right word at the right time—beautiful! “ (Proverbs 15:23);
  • “GOD can’t stand evil scheming, but he puts words of grace and beauty on display. (Proverbs 15:26)”

WOW! Words as I am sure you also know, are the prime means of communication for all of humanity, regardless of our language, culture or people group. Needless to say that every one of us has either been hurt, or hurt others, by communicated words. The quality of our communication matters for healthy relationships in our life, church life, community life and work life.” The words we communicate are essential to our enjoyment and growth as people.

Words can have awesome power! Words have the power of life & death – we consume its fruit and give its fruit to others! Words can influence the whole person – for evil as well as for good. I wonder how often we watch the words that we utter and control our speech – both offline and online. It is very easy to tweet something in anger, frustration or boredom, that is hurtful to others as well as ourselves. I have done it. I am sure you have as well.

I see from Christians online too much hate. I won’t give examples, as that would just be feeding them. Let’s do as Solomon encourages in Proverbs 10:21 “For the tongue of the righteous is choice silver.” As Christians, let our words be as a honeycomb, sweet in the soul and healing to the bones – of others as well as ourselves. We find that if we give an apt reply we will find joy and discover the goodness and healing a timely word brings! It doesn’t mean we have to be all airy-fairy, sweet as sugar all the time! There is a time for rebuke and correction but done appropriately. We are not to speak glibly and hypocritically but with truth, sincerity and love. Our silence can, in some circumstances, speak louder than our words. Let’s use our words and our silence wisely.

I shall leave you with some questions to take away and ponder.

  1. Are the words I use, online and offline, words that heal and encourage, or are they also used to hurt and damage people?
  2. What areas can I improve upon so that my words can heal, encourage and uplift others?
  3.  When I am sharing with other people, is what I am saying really sharing or is it gossiping by another name?


About davegroberts

Tentmaker and Partaker, some say pioneer, seeking to help churches/christians engage actively within digital space...